Hi, I’m a Daughter, a Career Woman and I’m Perfectly Imperfect
My name is Mbali, M to those who know me
I live and work in the City of Gold, Johannesburg in South Africa although I grew up in warm and sunny Durban. I wear many different hats, such as career woman, daughter, sister, friend, mentor, confidant and sometimes even girlfriend, LOL! Somedays, I thrive in these roles whilst other days I go to bed thinking that I will try again tomorrow.
My greatest and proudest role is being the daughter to two incredible Queens. I have two mothers, but not in any traditional or modern way. Let me break it down. My biological mother is an identical twin. Her sister, my second mother, does not have any biological children of her own so I am both their daughter. I refer to them as ‘The Mothers’ and I cannot recall a single moment where my other mother has not been present in my life, either in the forefront or in the background. She has been steadfast in supporting her sister in raising her daughter for 31 years.
Are you wondering why I haven’t mentioned my dad? The politically correct answer here is to say that my mom is a single parent. But maybe that leads you to follow up questions such as: “Oh, your dad doesn’t support your mom?” Or “He isn’t present in your life.” Or, “He passed away when you were young?” None of the above. My ‘father’ has never been in my life and I do not know him. Don’t feel bad, sad or have a sense of pity for me. This is not a sensitive or painful issue for me. I have spent the time working on this and I am fine with it. In fact, I have never felt like I missed the love of another parent, and that is because The Mothers held it down.
Biologically I am an only child but as a Black African I have very close relationships with some of my cousins. So much so, that I am the older sister to four of them.
I’m a corporate girl, am easy going and will happily try something new (within reason). I do have a bit of a stubborn streak and once I set my mind on something, I go all out to get it. I believe family is important as well as investing in those good relationships. I am a believer of the Lord Jesus Christ and my faith is important to me.
I have always maintained that I am blessed. The Lord’s hand has truly been in my life. Things that should have been impossible for me have been possible. That being said, I have also had my fair share (sometimes I think too much) of life’s challenges, some of which have knocked me down. I am realising that I am on a journey of learning, discovery, healing and forgiving. I’ve experienced exceptional highs where I would float on cloud nine for weeks or months. And I’ve also experienced the lowest of lows where I have stayed on the ‘floor’ not wanting to or knowing how to get up.
So, this obviously isn’t the end of this part of the journey. In fact, it’s just the start and I hope to build this as a credible platform over the next few months.
I am looking forward to this journey.
All my love, M!